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Questions That Get Teens Talking with Sarah Brooks | Ep. 182

Questions That Get Teens Talking with Sarah Brooks | Ep. 182

by | Sep 30, 2025 | Parenting, Podcast, Support Groups

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How to Get Past “Fine”: Sparking Real Conversations with Teens

“How was your day?”
“Fine.”

Sound familiar? Sarah Brooks joins the team to share practical ways adults can move past one-word answers and open the door to meaningful conversations with teenagers.

Key Question

I ask my teen how their day was and all I get is ‘fine.’ How can I get them to give me more than one-word answers?

Why Teens Give Short Answers

Short replies like “fine,” “good,” or “nothing” often have less to do with rudeness and more to do with what’s happening beneath the surface. After a long day of classes, social interactions, and activities, teens are usually tired and may need time to decompress before they can switch into conversation mode.

Many teens also guard their independence. A quick answer can be their way of keeping a sense of privacy or control, especially if they feel peppered with questions. Add in the natural push for autonomy during adolescence and the ever-present distraction of phones, and it’s easy to see why they might default to the simplest response.

The way questions are asked matters too. Broad, open-ended prompts like “How was school?” can feel overwhelming because they require a teen to sift through an entire day’s worth of experiences. Specific, concrete questions—“Who made you laugh today?” or “What class surprised you?”—are easier to answer and invite a real exchange.

Environment and timing also play a big role. Teens may clam up if they feel like they’re under a spotlight or being interrogated. They tend to talk more freely when the setting is low-pressure, such as during a car ride, while cooking, or on a walk, when conversation can flow side-by-side instead of face-to-face.

Better Questions, Better Connection

Listen to the full episode for lots of great conversation starters, but here are a few to try right away:
  • “Who’s the funniest person you saw today?”
  • “What would your friends say about this?”
  • “What do you wish adults understood about your generation?”

These focused prompts give teens something specific to answer and invite them to share their real thoughts.

Listen First, Fix Later

The most powerful tool isn’t the perfect question—it’s how you listen.

Here are our top tips:

  • Stay unflappable. Don’t react with shock or judgment.
  • Resist the urge to fix. Teens need space to process, not a lecture.
  • Be present. Put the phone down, make eye contact, or go for a walk or drive to create a relaxed side-by-side setting.

Timing Matters

The moment you choose to start a conversation can determine whether it blossoms or fizzles.

After school, practice, or a social outing, many teens experience a mental “crash” as they transition from the demands of the day to the safety of home. They need what some call a “decompression zone”—a stretch of time to grab a snack, scroll their phone, or simply be quiet before they’re ready to share.

It’s also important to read the room.

If a teen is clearly tired, irritated, or focused on another task, even well-intentioned questions can feel intrusive.

Look for natural pauses instead. A short car ride, a walk with the dog, or a shared chore like washing dishes often creates the relaxed environment that invites conversation. Side-by-side settings lower the pressure and make it easier for teens to open up, because they’re not under the direct gaze of an adult.

Adjusting to a teen’s internal clock can help too.

Some are more talkative late at night, others early in the morning, and many need their own rhythm respected. Rather than demanding immediate answers, letting them know you’re available when they’re ready shows trust and patience.

Key Take-Aways for Parents Teachers and Mentors
  • Build trust early with everyday connection points, not just big “serious talks.”
  • Admit when you miss the mark—owning mistakes shows respect and models humility.
  • Offer choices about when and how to have important conversations.

Some Last Thoughts

Getting past one-word answers isn’t about pushing harder—it’s about creating space.

When caring adults give teens time to unwind, ask thoughtful questions, and listen without judgment, they signal respect for the teen’s world. Over time, those small, consistent choices build the kind of trust that turns everyday moments into meaningful conversations and lasting connection.

Don’t forget to subscribe! Find us on YouTube or wherever you listen to podcasts. Have a question or a topic you’d love to hear about? Reach out on social media or email us at podcast@teenlife.ngo.
Read Episode Transcript

Host:
I ask my team how their day was and all I get is “fine.” How can I get them to give me more than one-word answers? That’s the question today, and we brought in an expert. Caleb isn’t here, but we’re upgrading—sorry, Caleb—with Sarah Brooks.

Sarah is a Teen Life board member, volunteer, super-mom, and a champion of teenagers. She has a gift for making teens feel safe, heard, and willing to talk, which is why we wanted her insight.

Sarah Brooks:
Thanks for having me! I think adults get stuck with one-word answers for a lot of reasons. Teens might simply be uninterested in that moment. Maybe they need a snack, maybe their mind is still on school, or maybe it’s just not the right time. It usually isn’t personal.

Also, if you ask a lame question, you’ll get a lame answer. “How was your day?” is a front-door question—it’s direct and flat. If you rephrase creatively and come in the “back door,” you’ll get fuller answers.

Host:
So give options instead of yes/no?

Sarah:
Exactly. If you ask a yes/no question, they can brush it off. Give them choices so they have to think. Teens also hate looking foolish in front of peers, so I often ask about their friends: “What would your friends say about…?” or “What do you think your generation thinks about…?” They’re really giving their own opinion without the pressure.

Kids also love giving advice. Ask, “If you were parenting right now, what would you do?” They’ll reveal a lot without realizing it.

Host:
Sometimes you need to warm them up first.

Sarah:
Yes. You can’t start with a heavy question. Read the room and build up. And never nag—“Tell me more” after a “fine” is the quickest way to shut them down. I compare it to approaching a wild animal: you can’t come in aggressive. Even parents need to give space.

Host:
What about timing?

Sarah:
Timing and setting are huge. Think about a “decompression zone.” When someone comes home, give them a pause before starting a conversation. Side-by-side is powerful—talk while driving, walking, planting flowers, even coloring. Facing each other can feel intense. Moving together lowers defenses and even gives you a second to hide a surprised reaction.

Host:
Great tip. What questions actually open the door?

Sarah:
I like to ask my kids for a “parenting evaluation”:

“What am I doing well?”

“What could I improve?”

It tells them we’re all learning. I’ll ask, “Which of your friends could use more or less parenting—and why?” Or fun ones:

“Who’s the funniest person you know?”

“Who’s the meanest?”

“What do you wish adults understood about your generation or the struggles you face online?”

Specific questions work better than “How was your day?”—which part of an eight-hour day do they even pick?

Host:
Listening is key too.

Sarah:
Absolutely. You can have the best questions in the world, but if you’re not a safe listener, it won’t matter. Listen curiously, be unflappable, and don’t take answers personally. And don’t rush to fix things. If a teen shares a problem, your job in that moment is to hear them, not solve it.

Host:
Sometimes we relate everything back to our own stories.

Sarah:
Right. Let them have their own experiences. Even if their situation mirrors yours, you don’t need to make it about you.

Host:
What if you must have a tough conversation?

Sarah:
Set expectations. Say, “We need to talk about something hard—would you rather do that now or later?” Give them a choice when possible. Make sure everyone is fed and rested; it matters more than we think.

Host:
Any last advice?

Sarah:
Admit when you mess up. If you lose your temper or don’t listen, own it and ask for a redo. That builds trust. And remember, small moments of connection add up—late-night talks, car rides, walks, helping with a task. Those everyday touchpoints pave the way for the deeper conversations.

Host:
Such good wisdom. This week, look for an intentional way to connect with a teen—maybe a drive, a walk, or just a silly question. Subscribe to the podcast and join us next time.

Karlie Duke
Karlie Duke

Communications Director

Tobin Hodges
Tobin Hodges

Program Director

Sarah Brooks

Sarah Brooks

Special Guest

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by | Sep 23, 2025 | Podcast, Technology

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How can I help teens grow in gratitude?

Our phones never stop buzzing, but today’s teens need more than constant connection. In this episode, the team welcomes Sarah Brooks, longtime Teen Life volunteer and board member, to explore a question many parents, teachers, and mentors are asking: How can adults help teens keep their digital lives in balance?

Key Question

What are ways that adults can help teens balance their digital lives?

What We Cover

00:00 Navigating Digital Life and Social Media
00:27 The Positive Aspects of Digital Connection
06:38 The Dark Side of Digital Engagement
14:18 Finding Balance in a Digital World

What are the bright spots in the digital world?

Digital life isn’t all bad. Online spaces can offer connection for young people who feel isolated, especially those with unique interests or social anxiety. Creative teens also have powerful tools to share music, art, and ideas with a wide audience. These opportunities can spark friendships and encourage imagination—when used with care.

Yet even these positives carry a shadow—constant shallow connection, pressure to “be a brand,” and the loss of simply doing something for fun.

TL;DR: Things to Celebrate

  • Connection for the Isolated
  • Space for Creativity

What should we be worried about?

The constant scroll brings real concerns. Device use can become addictive, with withdrawal-like reactions when screens are taken away.

Short attention spans are now the norm, making it harder to engage deeply with sports, schoolwork, or relationships.

Teens are also exposed to rapid swings from tragedy to celebration, leaving them numb and emotionally drained. And when life is shared mainly as content, in-person moments can lose their meaning.

Practical Ways to Support Balance

Caring adults can help guide teens toward healthier habits:

Model healthy limits.

Let them see you step away from your phone—during meals, on outings, or for set periods each week.

Invite their input.

Ask what they think a reasonable screen schedule looks like. When teens help set boundaries, they’re more likely to follow them.

Offer real-life alternatives.

Outdoor time, hobbies, and even boredom give teens a chance to reset.

Use tools thoughtfully.

Apps or devices that limit screen access can be helpful, but conversation and connection matter even more.

Some Last Thoughts

Technology is a powerful tool, but it should serve us—not the other way around. By modeling balance, involving teens in the process, and encouraging offline experiences, adults can help young people enjoy the benefits of digital life without being consumed by it.

We’re all learning together—one unplugged moment at a time.

Don’t forget to subscribe! Find us on YouTube or wherever you listen to podcasts. Have a question or a topic you’d love to hear about? Reach out on social media or email us at podcast@teenlife.ngo.
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Host: What are ways that adults can help teens balance their digital lives? We are back once again with Sarah Brooks—a friend of the show, longtime volunteer, and Teen Life board member. When we talk about digital media and teens, it can get dark and doom-and-gloom fast. So let’s start with the positives. From your perspective, what are some good things that social media and digital life bring to teens?

Sarah: I’ve been in the digital space for about 15 years, and when I first started, I had a long list of positives. Over time that list has gotten shorter. Even when I see positives, the negative side grows stronger. But yes, there are still a few.

Connection is huge, especially for kids who find it hard to connect face-to-face. A teen with a specific hobby or unique skills can find others around the world who share that interest without the pressure of in-person interaction. That will always be a positive. The downside is that we’re now so over-connected that we don’t know how to unplug.

Creativity is another benefit. Teens can create music, art, and content in ways that were impossible before. But many start to see themselves as a brand. They feel pressure to maintain a certain image and “top” their last post. Humans weren’t meant to have an aesthetic, and that constant pressure can take the fun out of being creative.

Host: It’s like how a fun hobby quickly turns into something you have to monetize.

Sarah: Exactly. We rarely do things just for fun anymore.

Host: On the flip side, what are the most concerning patterns you see with teens and digital life?

Sarah: The physiological and neurological addiction. The dopamine hit is real. When devices are taken away, many kids show actual withdrawal symptoms. We also have clear data now showing how constant screen time harms mental health.

Attention spans are shrinking. Teens are used to highlights and quick takes instead of deep engagement. And there’s a troubling desensitization. We can scroll past a violent video and then straight to a cookie recipe. We weren’t designed to carry the weight of the entire world in our pocket, but that’s what’s happening.

Another concern is how life itself becomes content. We shortchange real relationships because we’re busy sharing every moment online.

Host: So what can parents, mentors, and schools do to help?

Sarah: First, remember there’s no magic fix. Taking a phone away without addressing habits creates other problems. Kids need to be equipped to be bored and to live an “analog” life.

It starts with adults. Model what you want to see. Let kids watch you unplug. For example, I do “screen-free Fridays” where I put my phone away the entire day. Maybe that’s extreme, but even simple steps like leaving your phone in the car during family outings or keeping dinner a phone-free zone make an impact.

Invite teens into the conversation. Ask what a healthy screen rhythm looks like to them. When they help set boundaries, they’re more likely to follow them. In my home, my kids suggested limiting gaming to a few times a week depending on the weather—and because they chose it, they stick to it.

There are helpful tools, like apps that temporarily disable phones, but real connection matters more than any filter.

I actually have hope. Many teens are already aware of the downsides and are choosing flip phones or limiting social media. Technology is an incredible tool, but it should serve us, not the other way around.

Host: That’s a great reminder. We’re all still in the early years of figuring out how to live with this technology. Take it one day at a time, model balance, and involve teens in the process.

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Teen Life Podcast – Helping Teens Balance Their Digital Lives

Host: What are ways that adults can help teens balance their digital lives? We are back once again with Sarah Brooks—a friend of the show, longtime volunteer, and Teen Life board member. When we talk about digital media and teens, it can get dark and doom-and-gloom fast. So let’s start with the positives. From your perspective, what are some good things that social media and digital life bring to teens?

Sarah: I’ve been in the digital space for about 15 years, and when I first started, I had a long list of positives. Over time that list has gotten shorter. Even when I see positives, the negative side grows stronger. But yes, there are still a few.

Connection is huge, especially for kids who find it hard to connect face-to-face. A teen with a specific hobby or unique skills can find others around the world who share that interest without the pressure of in-person interaction. That will always be a positive. The downside is that we’re now so over-connected that we don’t know how to unplug.

Creativity is another benefit. Teens can create music, art, and content in ways that were impossible before. But many start to see themselves as a brand. They feel pressure to maintain a certain image and “top” their last post. Humans weren’t meant to have an aesthetic, and that constant pressure can take the fun out of being creative.

Host: It’s like how a fun hobby quickly turns into something you have to monetize.

Sarah: Exactly. We rarely do things just for fun anymore.

Host: On the flip side, what are the most concerning patterns you see with teens and digital life?

Sarah: The physiological and neurological addiction. The dopamine hit is real. When devices are taken away, many kids show actual withdrawal symptoms. We also have clear data now showing how constant screen time harms mental health.

Attention spans are shrinking. Teens are used to highlights and quick takes instead of deep engagement. And there’s a troubling desensitization. We can scroll past a violent video and then straight to a cookie recipe. We weren’t designed to carry the weight of the entire world in our pocket, but that’s what’s happening.

Another concern is how life itself becomes content. We shortchange real relationships because we’re busy sharing every moment online.

Host: So what can parents, mentors, and schools do to help?

Sarah: First, remember there’s no magic fix. Taking a phone away without addressing habits creates other problems. Kids need to be equipped to be bored and to live an “analog” life.

It starts with adults. Model what you want to see. Let kids watch you unplug. For example, I do “screen-free Fridays” where I put my phone away the entire day. Maybe that’s extreme, but even simple steps like leaving your phone in the car during family outings or keeping dinner a phone-free zone make an impact.

Invite teens into the conversation. Ask what a healthy screen rhythm looks like to them. When they help set boundaries, they’re more likely to follow them. In my home, my kids suggested limiting gaming to a few times a week depending on the weather—and because they chose it, they stick to it.

There are helpful tools, like apps that temporarily disable phones, but real connection matters more than any filter.

I actually have hope. Many teens are already aware of the downsides and are choosing flip phones or limiting social media. Technology is an incredible tool, but it should serve us, not the other way around.

Host: That’s a great reminder. We’re all still in the early years of figuring out how to live with this technology. Take it one day at a time, model balance, and involve teens in the process.

If you enjoyed this conversation, subscribe to the Teen Life Podcast on your favorite platform or watch on YouTube. Have a question for a future episode? Email us at podcasts@teenlife.ngo
.

Thanks for listening, and we’ll see you next time.

Karlie Duke
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Communications Director

Tobin Hodges
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Program Director

Caleb Hatchett
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Podcast Host

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by | Sep 16, 2025 | Parenting, Podcast

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How can I help teens grow in gratitude?

Spend time with teens long enough and you’ll likely hear complaints about chores, groans about homework, or frustration when things don’t go their way.

At times, it can look like entitlement—like they expect everything to be handed to them. But before we throw up our hands and label this “a teen problem,” let’s dig deeper.

Key Question

Why do teens seem so entitled, and what actually helps them appreciate what they have?

What We Cover

02:03  Understanding Teen Entitlement
05:13  The Impact of Parenting Styles on Entitlement
08:00  Cultural Influences on Teen Expectations
11:06  Navigating Entitlement in Adolescence
11:35  The Balance of Parenting and Resilience
13:55  Navigating Expectations and Mental Health
15:42  Fostering Gratitude in Children
17:41  Encouraging Ownership and Real Life Lessons

What does entitlement look like in teens?

Entitlement can show up in subtle or obvious ways, such as:

  • Expecting privileges without responsibility.
  • Being ungrateful when given opportunities or gifts.
  • Struggling to handle “no” or boundaries.
  • Comparing themselves constantly to peers and feeling dissatisfied.

Sound familiar? The truth is, entitlement isn’t unique to teenagers—it’s part of being human. Teens are just in a developmental stage where they’re still learning how to balance expectations with gratitude.

What’s behind the entitlement stereotype?

It’s easy to blame a generation, but entitlement in teens often reflects bigger cultural and developmental realities:

  • Cultural Shifts: We live in a world of instant access and constant upgrades—gratification comes quickly.
  • Parenting Patterns: Well-meaning adults sometimes shield teens from struggle, unintentionally feeding unrealistic expectations.
  • Development Realities: Teens are wired to see the world through their own lens as they develop independence.
  • Social Media Comparison: A scroll through feeds can make any teen feel like they’re missing out or “deserve more.”

Perspective Shift

Instead of seeing entitlement as evidence that something is “wrong,” what if we reframed it as a normal part of growth?

Entitlement is not failure—it’s immaturity. And adults wrestle with it too! Think about how easy it is to complain when Wi-Fi is slow, or when a long line at the store feels unfair.

Teens are simply practicing, with our help, how to handle those same human tendencies.

The Cost of Entitlement

Unchecked entitlement can hurt teens in significant ways:

  • Relationships: It makes it harder to build empathy and deep connections.
  • Resilience: If they expect life to always be easy, setbacks feel overwhelming.
  • Motivation: Without instant rewards, they may give up or disengage.
  • Mental Health: Constant disappointment can fuel anxiety, anger, or even depression.

Practical Ways to Grow Gratitude in Teens

Here’s the good news: entitlement isn’t permanent. Teens can learn genuine gratitude when adults model it and create opportunities for growth.

Some strategies include:

  • Model thankfulness: Let your teen hear you say “thank you” often. Express gratitude for both big and small things.
  • Expose them to new experiences: Volunteering or serving others helps teens see beyond themselves.
  • Practice delayed gratification: Encourage saving for something they want or waiting for rewards.
  • Start gratitude journaling: Writing down daily blessings builds awareness over time.
  • Let them take ownership: Giving responsibility for chores, projects, or family contributions helps teens appreciate what they have.

TL Tips and Takeaways

Don’t just force “thank yous.” Focus on cultivating genuine appreciation.

Show gratitude to your teen. Thank them for helping out, for following through, or simply for being present.

Take one step yourself. This week, grow your own gratitude—because when adults practice thankfulness, teens notice.

Some Last Thoughts

Helping teens move from entitlement to appreciation is not about shaming them—it’s about guiding them. When we model gratitude and give them chances to practice, we equip them with tools that will strengthen their relationships, resilience, and well-being for life.

Links & Resources:

Don’t forget to subscribe! Find us on YouTube or wherever you listen to podcasts. Have a question or a topic you’d love to hear about? Reach out on social media or email us at podcast@teenlife.ngo.
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Teens and AI | Ep. 179

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by | Sep 9, 2025 | Podcast, Technology

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What to Worry About and What to Celebrate with Teens and Artificial Intelligence

AI seems to have infiltrated every aspect of daily life.

If you’re around teenagers much, you’ve probably heard them mention AI—whether it’s ChatGPT, an art generator, or a Snapchat filter.

For some adults, the rise of artificial intelligence feels unsettling, like a loss of the “good ole days.” But here’s the truth: AI isn’t going anywhere. Instead of fighting against it, we can shift our perspective and ask: How can we help teens use it wisely, safely, and in ways that actually benefit them?

Key Question

How are teens actually using AI, and what should we be worried about?

What We Cover

00:00  Understanding AI’s Role in Teen Lives
04:14  The Pros and Cons of AI Companions
06:07  The Dangers of Emotional Attachment to AI
09:12  Academic Integrity and AI’s Impact on Learning
10:45  The Future of AI in Creative Industries
11:42  The Absurdity of AI Prompts
14:01  The Dangers of Misinformation
16:47  Cognitive Skills and AI’s Impact
19:59  Benefits of AI in Education
22:52  Navigating AI in the Classroom
24:58  Empowering Teens in the Age of AI

What AI looks like in a teen’s daily life.

AI isn’t just a futuristic concept—it’s embedded in the everyday world of teens. Here are a few ways they’re already using it:

AI Companions

Chatbots designed to simulate friendship, therapists, or even romance. This one is huge. Chatbots are currently integrated into nearly every platform you can think of. Meta is pushing them as companions for kids on Facebook and Instagram. Most customer service platforms are using them at least in the early stages of problem-solving. You might not even realize that it’s a chatbot!

Generative AI

You’ve probably heard a lot about this one as it relates to school. Teens are using tools like ChatGPT or Gemini that create text, essays, or poems.

Homework Help

Integrated into a lot of school/information-based platforms, but also found in search engines and chatbots. AI can provide quick answers, summaries, and explanations.

Art Generation

Platforms that turn text prompts into illustrations, logos, or digital art.

Social Media Filters

AI-driven filters that alter appearances and create effects.

Creative Projects

Music generation, video scripts, or design inspiration.

Search engines

With AI baked into Google and other platforms, nearly every search is influenced by it. It’s always important to click on the links it provides, because many of them don’t exist at all.

The Potential Dangers

Like any powerful tool, AI comes with risks—especially for impressionable teens:
  • Emotional attachment: Many teens are forming unhealthy bonds with AI companions and using them to substitute human relationships. Because AI companions’ objective is to be pleasing, they trigger the cue and reward system in the brain, which easily leads to addiction.
  • Plagiarism: With 97% of Gen Z students reportedly using AI for homework, many of them copying and pasting directly from AI tools, academic dishonesty is a real concern.
  • Misinformation: AI-generated responses can be wrong, misleading, or biased.
  • Inappropriate content: Teens can stumble into disturbing or harmful responses, including tips on how to self-harm and hide injuries, how to acquire illegal drugs or weapons, pornography, and more. Teens are also creating inappropriate content using other teens’ and adults’ images. Depending on the state, this can have very severe consequences and definitely merits a conversation.
  • Over-reliance for mental health: Turning to AI instead of trained counselors can backfire. AI has been recorded encouraging self-harm in minors and mistrust of parents and other adults.
  • Decreased cognitive skills: Studies suggest overuse may erode critical thinking.

The Benefits (Yes, There Are Some!)

Not all AI use is negative. In fact, when guided, teens can benefit greatly:
  • Personalized learning: AI can break down complex topics in simpler ways.
  • Creative exploration: Teens can make art, music, or stories they couldn’t have created otherwise.
  • Skill-building for future careers: Exposure now helps them prepare for an AI-driven workforce.
  • Brainstorming: Whether for essays, projects, or ideas, AI can spark creativity.
  • Research support: When used wisely, it’s a tool for gathering and synthesizing information.

AI can jumpstart writing projects, provide personalized feedback on rhetoric, grammar, and even how to improve foreign language skills. At times, it can generate fresh ideas, or simplify research. When managed well, it can be a useful companion tool, rather than a crutch.

Teaching Teens AI Literacy

Instead of just banning it, we can teach how to use it.

Here are 3 key points to touch on:

  • Critical thinking: Always ask, “Does this make sense?”
  • Fact-checking: Verify claims with reliable sources.
  • Bias awareness: AI reflects human bias—teens need to recognize that.

Perspective Shift

Artificial intelligence isn’t going anywhere. So instead of mourning the “good ole days”, let’s find ways to make it work for us!

TL Tips & Takeaways:

Here are a few practical steps adults can take today:

1. Set guardrails

Use age-appropriate settings, boundaries, and clear school guidelines (like when AI is off-limits for homework). Just keeping screens out of bedrooms and bathrooms makes a huge difference.

2. Stay Engaged

Adults need to understand what AI can do–it’s potential benefits and pitfalls, too. It’s hard to guide teens if we don’t understand the tools ourselves.

3. Normalize Conversations

A good, neutral poker face is crucial. Be shock-proof. Instead of fear, open dialogue about what teens are creating, learning, or curious about with AI.

Some Last Thoughts

Whether or not artificial intelligence is a force for good in your life, it is a force to be reckoned with. Any teen who has internet access should be aware of the potential benefits and harms of using AI.

It’s our job as caring adults to be a source of good information, and most importantly, a safe place for teens to ask questions.

With the increasing prevalence of AI companions, search engines, and generative AI, it’s more important than ever to not only be available, but to be actively seeking healthy, open connection with teens.

While AI can be used for good, the risk is high that its overuse will become an experience thief in the lives of our teens.

Let’s help them think critically about the pros and cons of the tools they use and the motivations behind them.

Links & Resources:

Don’t forget to subscribe! Find us on YouTube or wherever you listen to podcasts. Have a question or a topic you’d love to hear about? Reach out on social media or email us at podcast@teenlife.ngo.
Karlie Duke
Karlie Duke

Communications Director

Tobin Hodges
Tobin Hodges

Program Director

Caleb Hatchett
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Podcast Host

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How to Connect with Busy Teens | Ep. 178

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by | May 6, 2025 | Parenting, Podcast, Summer

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Even with a packed calendar, connection is a vital part of everyone’s health.

If you’re a parent, mentor, or caring adult who’s ever felt like connecting with teens gets harder when life gets hectic—we know exactly how you feel.

Whether it’s summer break, exam season, or just a stretch where everyone’s calendars are jam-packed, it’s totally normal to feel like you’re missing each other. But today, we’re flipping the script and talking about why these moments are some of the most important times to lean in and stay connected.

Key Question

How can I continue to connect with teens when schedules are busy and their normal routines are disrupted?

What We Cover

00:00  Introduction and Humor
02:57  Connecting with Busy Teens
06:03  Utilizing Everyday Moments for Connection
09:00  Meeting Teens Where They Are
12:03  The Importance of Presence
15:03  Consistency in Communication
18:03  Navigating Distant Relationships
20:48  Conclusion and Encouragement

Why This Matters More Than Ever

1. Teens Still Need Us

Even if they’re acting super independent or glued to their phones, teens still crave guidance, stability, and support from trusted adults.

2. Disruptions Can Be Stressful

 A change in rhythm—whether it’s sports seasons, vacations, exams, or family events—can make teens feel overwhelmed or isolated. You can be their steady, calm in the chaos.

3. Small Check-ins Build Big Trust

 You don’t need more time. You just need to make the most of the time you do have.

Perspective Shift

Over the summer, connecting might look different. But showing up matters the most when it takes more effort!

It’s easy to feel disconnected when schedules don’t align, but relationships with teens don’t have to be ‘all or nothing.’

Small moments of connection can make a big difference.

What can you do to make connection happen?

Try These 5 Simple Strategies:

Make the Most of Small Moments

You don’t need a long, sit-down heart-to-heart to connect with a teen.

Some of the best conversations happen during everyday moments—car rides, making dinner, running errands, or even during the commercial break of a show. Use those natural pauses to check-in.

Ask something light like, “What was one high and one low from your day?” or “What’s something funny that happened this week?” You can even try something playful like a “Fist to Five”—ask how they’re doing on a scale from a closed fist (zero) to five fingers. These mini check-ins help you stay in tune without feeling forced or heavy.

Use Technology to Your Advantage

When in-person time is limited, digital connection can bridge the gap.

A simple text saying, “Thinking about you today—hope practice went well!” can brighten their day more than you might think. Try sending a meme, a song you know they like, or an inside joke that reminds them you’re thinking about them.

If you want to make it more personal, record a quick voice memo or video message—something they can hear in your voice or see on your face.

These small gestures make it easy to stay connected in a format that feels natural to them.

Meet Them Where They Are

If your teen is in a season where they’re juggling a lot—school, sports, rehearsals, part-time jobs—connection might mean showing up where they already are, rather than pulling them out of their world.

Maybe you only catch the second half of their game, or you sit nearby while they do homework without needing to chat. These quiet ways of being present can speak volumes.

You can also ask about what’s capturing their attention: “What’s a song you have on repeat lately?” or “What show are you hooked on right now?”

Showing genuine interest in their interests builds trust and opens doors.

Be Predictable and Consistent

When everything around them feels chaotic or uncertain, teens appreciate something that feels steady.

Even one predictable point of contact each week can become a lifeline.

Maybe it’s a Sunday night check-in where you ask, “What’s coming up for you this week?” Or a regular stop for coffee or smoothies after practice. Even just sending a “Good luck!” text before a big test or performance shows you’re tuned in.

Consistency—more than quantity—builds a sense of safety and connection over time.

Keep The Pressure Low

Let’s be honest—teens don’t always want to talk when we’re ready to listen.

That doesn’t mean they don’t want to connect; it just means they need space and options.

Create low-pressure opportunities to be together- “Want to grab ice cream after practice?” or “I’m running to Target—feel like tagging along?” These small, no-expectation invitations give them the freedom to show up on their terms.

Even if they decline, the offer still communicates that you want to spend time with them—and that matters.

TL;DR: Tips and Takeaways

  • Don’t take it personally if they seem distant—pulling away is normal and not about you.
  • Keep showing up—your consistency speaks volumes, even when they don’t say much.
  • Let them lead sometimes—Try simple, open statements like:
    • “I’m here if you ever want to talk.”
    • “No pressure, just checking in.”

Some Last Thoughts

Even in the busiest seasons, connection is still possible—and incredibly powerful.

It doesn’t have to be big or dramatic. In fact, teens often remember the small, consistent ways you showed up more than anything else. So keep reaching out, keep showing up, and know that your presence matters—maybe more than you realize.

Remember: you don’t have to be perfect, just present.

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Read Episode Transcript

Karlie (00:00)
How can I continue to connect with teens when schedules are busy and their normal routines are disrupted? So we are heading into end of school year, going into summer. And so I feel like this is such a timely question because right now teens are probably busier than they’ve ever been with finals, wrapping up all of their things, kicking off summer and then summer.

When I was a kid, Summer, was you didn’t do anything and that is not the case anymore. They do…

Caleb Hatchett (00:29)
Yeah. It’s, it’s getting shorter and shorter also. Like people are starting bandcamp like halfway through July. Like it’s crazy. I’ll plan a mission trip and it’s like, sorry. Sorry. You can’t go in June cause it’s bandcamp. I know, it’s intense. Yeah.

Karlie (00:34)
Well, that’s fair, but they…

Bandcamp is no joke too. But that’s what they do camps.

We’re doing sports are still going if they’re doing select club, AU, all of the things. Many older teens are also working, you add that they’re going on trips, they’re doing mission trips. so schedules just aren’t.

Caleb Hatchett (00:53)
Yeah, club, yeah.

Karlie (01:04)
even normally what they are, but this doesn’t just apply to summer. think as we’re talking about this, think through if you have a student who is in the middle of their sports season or is in the middle of band season or they’re in a play and they’re going to practices every single day and their routine just looks different. How do we connect and how can we keep going when they’re busy and you’re like, wait, I can’t even find a time to talk to them, whether you’re a parent or outside and

Caleb Hatchett (01:06)
No.

Yeah.

Karlie (01:33)
That’s almost even more difficult because you’re not seeing them as often. But it’s going to look different and that’s okay. I will say kind of maybe as our perspective shift, during these times when they’re busier and it’s more difficult, if you continue to show up, it’s going to make a bigger impact. Because you’re showing them, even when this is the toughest it’s going to be, I’m willing to step into that.

Caleb Hatchett (02:00)
Yeah.

Karlie (02:00)
And that shows you really care because you’re not just doing it when it’s easy. You’re

doing it when you’re having to text me five times and go, hi, still here. You’re not answering me, but still care about you. Hope you’re doing good. And that shows a lot to a student. And it doesn’t have to be this all or nothing of we have to be super connected all the time or I’m not connected at all. And I’m just going to fall off looking for these small moments can make.

Caleb Hatchett (02:09)
Yeah.

Right.

Yeah.

Karlie (02:28)
a big difference.

Caleb Hatchett (02:29)
Yeah. I, you know, I think, you know, even, even using everyday moments, is what is going to have to happen, especially when they’re busy of, you know, taking advantage of the times that are just already prebuilt into a day, ⁓ car rides, meal times, commercial breaks, you know, like of, using, you know, maybe the thing that, you know, they are decompressing, but you still want to make the most out of the time. And yeah, it doesn’t have to be something big. It doesn’t have to be, Hey, let’s go, let’s go and make like a big day out of something. If they’re in the middle of just busyness and just need time to decompress, need time. It’s not too much. You can still check in.

Karlie (03:02)
Mm-hmm.

Caleb Hatchett (03:13)
Without adding to all of the busyness just do a quick check-in. Hey, what’s a high and a low from today? Whoop and a poop if you tuned in last week What’s something funny that happened this week a fist to five on just how your day or you haven’t talked to him Until the end of the summer how the summer was going Just take advantage of any small moment that you can

Karlie (03:25)
Bye!

Right.

Well, and especially if you’re a parent, you are going to have those little moments more because you’re with them. So you are gonna be in the car with them. You are gonna maybe eat a meal with them or be sitting around watching TV and mute it during a commercial to be like, hey, catch me up on your day or what’s been going on. If you’re not a parent and you don’t have those little moments, come up with something that you just shoot off every now and then. Earlier this year,

Caleb Hatchett (03:47)
Yeah.

Karlie (04:09)
Teen Life was going through transition and life was crazy busy. And I had a Teen Life friend who would text me fist to five, are you doing today? And it was quick and it was short and I could respond with, you know, I’m at a four today. It’s actually going pretty good. Or today is a two. It has been tough. And we didn’t, she wasn’t taking too much of my time, but every time it showed, man, she cares enough that she’s going to continue.

Caleb Hatchett (04:17)
Hmm.

Yeah.

Mm. Yeah.

Karlie (04:35)
to check in and even something like that where you don’t have to give an explanation, but a student could just be like, how many thumbs up are we today? And like, how many booms I’m going to give today? Three booms. Like, I don’t know. Sawyer would be. Yeah, all in on that. Maybe it’s just that you send every now and then gifs back and forth. And if you haven’t heard from a while, send them a funny gif of like, hello, you there? Like make it funny and not.

Caleb Hatchett (04:44)
Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah

Karlie (05:04)
feels so heavy or like it’s one more thing that they have to keep up with. But at the same time, if they are this busy, it’s stressful. And so I think sometimes we think, they’re busy. They don’t want to hear from me, but sometimes they need more support and they need more help than ever before because that is incredible. Like the sports, the family, the not having their normal routine, they are probably feeling overwhelmed.

Caleb Hatchett (05:08)
Yes. Yeah.

Yeah, yes.

Karlie (05:31)
They might be feeling isolated if they can’t be around their normal friends. And so those small check-ins mean so, much. And so I kind of, we already mentioned this, but use technology to your advantage. Even as a parent, yes, but even if you are a parent of just like, hey, they left super early for practice and I’m not seeing them till tonight. Hey, thinking about you right now, hope practice is great. You don’t have to ask anything.

Caleb Hatchett (05:38)
Yeah.

Hmm, especially if you’re not the parent. Yeah. Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Karlie (05:57)
Hey, heard this song today. Have you heard this one? I liked it. Hey, have you seen this show yet? Or, hey, let’s put this on the calendar to go see this movie when it comes out. Something like that, that can be short voice memos. Voice memos honestly kind of stress me out because I don’t like that they disappear because then I forget about them. I don’t know. That’s just, I know you can, but sometimes I forget and then I’ve forgotten. I was like, I don’t

Caleb Hatchett (06:00)
Yeah.

⁓ okay. huh. You can hit keep on them and they stay.

Karlie (06:24)
what they said. It’s been a long time.

Caleb Hatchett (06:26)
I guess that is

how to have a conversation. If the last thing they said disappears forever. Yeah.

Karlie (06:30)
Exactly. But

you can’t keep it. But maybe you shoot off a quick voice memo of, I know you’re busy, but this just happened and I wanted to tell you about it. And you tell them a story where they don’t have to be available right that second or shoot them a video. I was going to say, I know kids FaceTime all the time, which is once again, wild to me because if someone just out of the blue FaceTimes me, something is wrong. Like someone is in trouble, but they do it all the time. So maybe do it back.

Caleb Hatchett (06:37)
Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

So the quick FaceTime. Yeah. yeah. I think yeah. Using technology, especially in the midst of busyness, you know, can be, Hey, just checking in, making sure that they know you’re there and doesn’t have much expectation. You know, you know, don’t be like, you know, overbearing of, you didn’t text back. Like you sure you’re okay. They might just be busy.

Karlie (07:12)
Mm-hmm.

Caleb Hatchett (07:19)
You know, but you know, they’re not texting back. Just continue to say, Hey, here’s this weird gift song I found, you know, try to keep it low expectation response from them. What.

Karlie (07:29)
I had

a college roommate, my freshman roommate, and I’m not saying you need to do this, but it just made me think of this and it was so funny that one day, I think I was in class and she sent me a text and I didn’t immediately respond. She, no joke, sent me probably 50 individual words. Hey, are you there? Hello, can you help me? What are you doing? Why aren’t you answering me? Like, I mean, a million. And so I’m not saying do that.

Caleb Hatchett (07:53)
Yeah

Ha

Karlie (07:56)
But

if they don’t respond to you, just be like, checking in again, see above. Don’t make them feel bad, but you can poke fun about that. Man, you must be crazy busy if you’re not answering. Just keep going. Just keep going and see how, hey, yeah, gonna see how many texts it takes for you to reply to me. I don’t know. It could be five, we’re at 10. Or just like check and count 10 unreplied messages. Here we go.

Caleb Hatchett (08:00)
Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah, lean into this kid. Yeah.

You

zero day, 10 days since last message replied. Yeah. Yeah.

Karlie (08:22)
Yeah. Yeah. Like please mark yourself as safe. At least send

an emoji. Let me know you’re okay. So leaning into that, I will say also meeting them where they are. When you’re hearing us say that, don’t, especially if they’re busy or crazy, try not to expect more of them. But maybe for this season, they aren’t showing up to Wednesday night for you, Caleb, because they’re busy.

Caleb Hatchett (08:32)
Yeah.

Yes.

Mm-hmm.

Karlie (08:46)
you know what, I’m gonna look next week and I’m gonna go to one of their games and I’m gonna show up for them. Or I’m gonna go to their one-act play because I know that this is important to them and they’ve put so much effort into it that I’m going to honor that and make sure that they know that I’m there. If you’re a parent and they have a crazy amount of homework, maybe it’s going and sitting next to them and doing work on your computer while they’re doing homework. So at least presence-wise,

Caleb Hatchett (08:58)
Yes.

Yeah, your presence. Yeah.

Karlie (09:13)
you’re there. doesn’t always have to mean a super deep connection, a super deep conversation or ask him questions. It could just be like, Hey, I’m here.

Caleb Hatchett (09:20)
Yeah. And you know, I think I’ve always been surprised by how much it really does mean to a student that, you, you showed up like to, to this game, to this thing that, you know, sometimes, sometimes most of the time they will be like, Hey, you coming, you coming? And like, they won’t let you forget, but especially for the ones who just kind of like, yeah, you know, I have a game this week.

Karlie (09:27)
Mm-hmm.

Hahaha!

Mm-hmm.

Caleb Hatchett (09:45)
And you know, like if you were able to pick up on that and be like, you know what? They didn’t necessarily explicitly ask. It means so, so much. And yes, even to the ones who annoy you and begging you to come to the game or come to the play, whatever it means more than I think you can know because it’s, you know, they probably know you’re busy. and even if they don’t, it’s like, man, makes them feel good about themselves. so meet them where they’re at.

Karlie (10:00)
Mm-hmm.

And I’ll say if you’re

a teacher too, you probably, can’t go to all the things. There’s no way, especially if you’re a high school teacher and you’ve got, I don’t know, 100, probably more students that are in your classes. Pick two students that this semester I’m gonna show up for one thing that they do. Or try to pick, hey, I have this, I’ve got five basketball players in my class. I can knock out five by going to one game.

Caleb Hatchett (10:28)
Yeah.

Yes.

Karlie (10:37)
or I’ve got

lots of kids that are in band and on the football team, so I’m going to show up to a game. Or if you have a student that you know is very stressed, asking them, hey, what are you involved in right now that is also taking up a lot of your time? Okay, I can tell that means a lot to you because of how much time it’s taking, so that’s what I’m going to show up to this time. And so thinking through things like that instead of just being like, well, this is ridiculous that…

Caleb Hatchett (10:52)
Yeah.

Yeah.

Karlie (11:02)
you’re having such a hard time in my class because of that, but being like, man, this is important enough to them that they’re trying to squeeze it in. And so I’m, I want to see what this is about and go support them.

Caleb Hatchett (11:05)
Yeah.

And I think too, like it’s, you don’t have to be a super fan. Like, you know, don’t have to show up to every single game with a big fat head. Like it’s like, if you want to do that, that’s great. But yeah, choose one, especially if it’s a long season with a lot of games, like choose one or two, one a week, one every three weeks. ⁓

Karlie (11:18)
Right.

Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Caleb Hatchett (11:33)
You know, you can also just keep a running calendar. If you’re a student minister, enable your volunteers to just also choose just one. And then with enough people, you’ll cover, you know, hopefully the whole youth group. And, you know, some things are, you know, more important than others. One regular season game versus, you know, a playoff game or a one act play that only happens once a year. You know, it’s okay to prioritize some of those, you know, if you know.

Karlie (11:54)
Mm.

Caleb Hatchett (12:02)
Your students or student is in a play and you can mark that off months in advance to make sure that you’re there because it only happens once You know some things will take priority, but don’t don’t feel the need to show up to everything but continue to meet them where they’re at and even in the midst of the busyness I think this can also look like You know meeting them where they’re at and their schedule and in their wants and interests of if they are busy

Karlie (12:12)
Mm-hmm.

Right.

Caleb Hatchett (12:28)
you know, see if they, the student can carve out one afternoon for coffee, you know, if they like coffee or if they like whatever, but just in the midst of the busyness, see, you know, meet them where they’re at in their interests and in their schedule to see if you can have time to check in person to person.

Karlie (12:45)
When I think in that of what you’re saying, like if you can be consistent where and when, especially if nothing else is, our dad is really good at this. Was really good at it when we were in high school and I’m the only one still living here. So I get the benefit of still getting weekly lunches with my dad of every Thursday I just know unless every now and then something comes up and we’re understanding of that and we can move it around, but

Caleb Hatchett (12:49)
Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

Karlie (13:10)
Thursdays, I eat lunch with my dad. And when I was in high school, I think it was Tuesdays. I think you did breakfast.

Caleb Hatchett (13:15)
It was.

We, we that, yeah, we would go breakfast every game day. you know, every Friday we would go get Chick-fil-A and then even like when I was in high school and you know, there was a time where we overlapped, you were back from college. was still in high school every Tuesday. Me, you and dad would go grab lunch. And so, and yeah, he was, he and mom were at every game at every thing that we did. And it was, you know, looking back.

Karlie (13:34)
Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Caleb Hatchett (13:45)
I don’t think I recognized it, how important and maybe rare that was as a teenager, but it still meant a lot that they were at everything. think whether I knew it or not, it communicates this person cares. ⁓ and for a student who especially might not have that from their home life or from their parents or other adults in their life, if you can be consistent,

Karlie (13:50)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Caleb Hatchett (14:10)
Again, maybe not every game, be consistent enough to show interest and to show up. It means so, so much.

Karlie (14:17)
Right, and so if you’re not a parent, that could look like sending a good luck text before big events of, I know you’ve got this going on today, good luck. Or let me know how it goes after, or even taking the time anymore, especially with sporting events, the school on social media somewhere will post the outcome of that game. So if you can’t go to the game, even without asking, hey, how’d it go? Hey, I saw y’all won a big one tonight, congrats.

Caleb Hatchett (14:21)
Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah, I love that.

Karlie (14:44)
showing

that you took the step to go looking for how they did. And you might not know how they did individually, or sometimes you did. Maybe if they’re the star of the football team, hey, I saw you got three touchdowns tonight. That’s incredible. Showing them that you care in that way. It could also be once a week or once a month at the beginning of every month, hey, what’s coming up for you this month? How can I be praying for you? What are some things that are stressful? Is there anything I can…

Caleb Hatchett (14:48)
Yeah.

Right.

Karlie (15:12)
help you with this month where you just know I’m going to do this every Sunday or every the first week of every month I’m going to kind of see how they’re doing and they know it’s coming and it’s just a consistent this what we do.

Caleb Hatchett (15:18)
Yeah

And

like we said off the top, they, teens might not necessarily communicate that they like structure. They function well under it. And like, I’ve been surprised. I get lunch with the student every month. And if sometimes I’ll forget, he’ll remind me because it’s part of the routine. It’s part of the consistency and predictability of us getting lunch and you know, like make it fun. And I think it even goes back to me the more they’re at every month, me and the student try to go somewhere new to eat.

Karlie (15:31)
Mm-hmm.

Hmm. Right.

Mm-hmm.

Caleb Hatchett (15:54)
And we, you know, we try some things and, know, it’s, fun. It’s consistent, but I think you’ll be surprised too. Once you establish this consistency and predictability, how much they depend on it and want it as well.

Karlie (16:06)
That’s good. So to kind of wrap up this episode, we do kind of want to give some advice if they seem distant or you don’t feel as connected. So you’re trying these things and you’re just going, man, we just are in a season where I cannot connect with this student. I’m not feeling as connected to my kid. First of all, don’t take it personally. I think automatically teens are going to go through phases where they…

Caleb Hatchett (16:14)
Yeah.

Karlie (16:28)
have a lot of time or where they don’t, it’s often not about you. It’s about what they feel like they can handle in that moment. So don’t take it personally and get your feelings wrapped up or even like given to maybe some of the drama that their friends do, which is, are you mad at me? Hey, what’s going on? Like you don’t have to do that and just maybe remind yourself, hey, they must have a lot going on right now and I’m going to give them extra grace in a time where maybe they’re not getting that.

Caleb Hatchett (16:45)
Yeah, right.

Yeah. Yeah.

Karlie (16:57)
I also think it’s so important to show up anyways. If they don’t always respond, you can still offer again. If you are consistently reaching out, if you’re consistently showing up at their games or like we’ve said, if you have a student that’s not responding to a lot, show up at their next game and that way they see you in person. And once again, I think sometimes that triggers in their brain, hey, you care enough that even in the hard times, even when I’m not giving you anything back that you’re showing up for me.

Caleb Hatchett (16:59)
Yes.

Yes.

Yeah.

Yeah. And I, know, in those moments you’re showing up, yeah, you sometimes just you showing up will be all the communication that needs to happen. doesn’t need to be adding on a layer of guilt of, man, wanted to make sure you were alive. know, like it’s just, Hey, you did great, man. I’ve missed seeing you talking to you. It was glad to get to see you, you know, just can communicate so, so differently than, throwing on the guilt on them.

Karlie (17:35)
Mm-hmm.

Right.

Mm-hmm.

Caleb Hatchett (17:54)
when they’re already in the middle of a busy season. But yeah, keep showing up and let them take the lead instead of asking questions, try statements like, hey man, I’m here if you ever need to talk. And again, I think you’ll be surprised if you establish that consistency and relationship, how much they rely on you. No pressure, just wanted to check in how you’re doing.

Karlie (18:12)
Mm-hmm.

Caleb Hatchett (18:19)
balancing this need of a lot of times students have a lot going on and they’re not organized enough to be like, it needs to text Caleb today, right? Like check in. Yes, but still let them take the lead on, on what to do on how they’re doing everything like that.

Karlie (18:36)
Right. All good stuff. We just really want to encourage you as we head into a busy season, a different season, a disrupted season, that you will find ways to connect with teens, that you will find ways to let them know that they’re seen and they’re loved. And even if they aren’t responsive or even if they aren’t able to juggle all the things,

maybe in a way that they would even like to that you’re gonna continue to show up and care for them. And that is what really matters. So as always, this has been a great season of the Teen Life Podcast. We’re loving answering questions and talking through topics that are hopefully gonna help you connect to the teens in your life. So if you have questions that you want us to cover, make sure that you reach out on social media or email podcast at teenlife.ngo.

Caleb Hatchett (19:02)
Yeah. Yeah.

Karlie (19:26)
You can always subscribe on YouTube or wherever you listen to podcasts so you don’t miss future episodes. And we’ll see you later.

Karlie Duke
Karlie Duke

Communications Director

Caleb Hatchett
Caleb Hatchett

Podcast Host

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