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Love in the Hallways – Dating, School, and Valentine’s Day
From Singles’ Awareness Day to Galentine’s to Valentine’s Day, February 14 usually evokes a reaction, and it’s no different with teenagers! Teen Life Program Director Tobin Hodges joins Karlie Duke to talk teen romance and what parents and teachers can do to encourage teens have healthy dating relationships.
We’re diving into the world of teenage dating at school and the unique way Valentine’s Day plays out in their lives. Whether you’re a parent, teacher, or mentor, we’ve got insights and tips to help you navigate this tricky but important topic.
Dating at School: The Reality
What does dating at school actually look like?
It’s not all hand-holding and passing notes—modern teen relationships happen in:
- Parking lots before and after school, where couples meet up for a few moments of privacy.
- Lunch periods where they share meals and social time.
- Passing periods—those short but meaningful moments between classes.
- Classes where they might work together on assignments or find small ways to interact.
How Can School Staff Support Healthy Relationships?
School staff play an important role in encouraging positive teen relationships.
Here’s how they can help:
- Encourage respect and kindness in all relationships—romantic or not.
- Step in when needed—if a relationship turns toxic or interferes with schoolwork.
- Communicate with parents when red flags arise, like emotional distress or disruptive behavior.
What Can Parents Do to Set Their Kids Up for Success?
Parents can foster healthy relationship habits at home that carry over into school.
Try these strategies:
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Keep an open-door policy—make sure your teen knows they can talk to you about anything.
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Ask questions—show genuine interest in their friendships and dating life without prying.
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Invite friends and significant others over so you can get to know them.
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Observe social dynamics at games, performances, or other extracurricular activities.
Helpful Tips for Parents & Mentors
Model healthy relationships in your own life.
Teach boundaries and self-respect.
Offer guidance without judgment.
Valentine’s Day: A Teen Trend Check
Do teens actually celebrate Valentine’s Day?
The poll says:
Valentines’ Day: 67% YES | 33% NO
Galentine’s Day: 57% YES | 43% NO
But why isn’t there a guys’ equivalent?
How Should Teens Celebrate Valentine’s Day?
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Keep it simple—a small gift, flowers, or candy goes a long way.
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Focus on friendship—group hangouts can be just as fun.
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Don’t stress over grand gestures—meaningful moments matter more.
Teen relationships can be complicated, but with the right support from caring adults, they can also be a great learning experience. Whether it’s navigating school romances or figuring out Valentine’s Day traditions, our role is to guide, listen, and encourage healthy connections.
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Got a funny or memorable teen Valentine’s story? Drop it in the comments or tag us on social media!
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Karlie Duke
Communications Director

Tobin Hodges
Program Director
Tobin Hodges | Program Director
Tobin’s entire career has been centered around students and teens from all walks of life. He has a passion for helping teens be their best selves. As Program Director, he loves working directly with school staff and students through Teen Life Support Groups. Tobin has a Bachelor’s Degree in Music from Texas Tech University.
Karlie Duke | Director of Communications
Karlie has always had a heart for teenagers. Through her role at Teen Life, she loves to showcase the amazing stories coming out of Support Groups, but she is especially passionate about helping adults and teenagers find connection. Karlie has a BS in Communications with a minor in Family Studies from Abilene Christian University.