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Senioritis + Mental Health Awareness Month | 158

Senioritis + Mental Health Awareness Month | 158

by | May 7, 2024 | Mental Health, Parenting, Podcast, School

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How can adults connect with teens during their senior year when everyone has senioritis?

Senioritis is widely regarded as a right of passage for teenagers.

It’s a time when they may push boundaries more, assert their independence, and navigate the delicate balance between adolescence and adulthood.

The potential to drive parents and caring adults crazy is off the charts.

But it’s also a unique opportunity to lean into that natural urge toward freedom and choose to prioritize connection.

So, how can parents and teachers connect with graduating seniors?

Testing Boundaries

During their senior year, teens may exhibit behaviors that seem out of character. They might push boundaries more, seeking to assert their independence before leaving home.

And let’s face it, the idea of moving on leaves most of us with senioritis.

Did you notice a change in your teen’s behavior during their senior year? (Do you remember your own?!)

These shifts are often a natural part of their development as they prepare to transition into adulthood. It’s not personal. It’s nature.

Ways to Connect with Graduating Seniors

Provide Independence

Graduating seniors crave autonomy and freedom. Give them a little more independence to make decisions and navigate their own path. Trusting them with responsibilities can help foster a sense of maturity and self-confidence.

Offer Grace

As seniors navigate the final stretch of their high school journey, it’s essential to offer them extra grace. Understand that they may be feeling overwhelmed or stressed about the future. Be patient and supportive as they navigate this transition period.

Adjust Expectations

Adjust your expectations during your teen’s senior year. Recognize that they may be balancing academic pressures, social obligations, and future plans. Be flexible and understanding, allowing them the space to explore and grow.

Talk About Something Else

While discussions about college or the future are important, get interested in other aspects of their life as well.

Show genuine interest in their hobbies, passions, and personal experiences. Engaging in meaningful conversations about something other than school can strengthen your connection with your graduating teen.

Leaning into the Coming Change

It’s hard for everyone to know that change is coming, but that you’re still in the waiting period.

Parents, however, can make good use of the time by allowing teens more freedom while they are still at home and have a safe place to fail and boundaries enough to keep them from going overboard.

It’s also good practice for parents to let go a little and see that their teen is capable and will be ok.

Cheat Sheet for Talking about Mental Health

Things to say if you are not “fine” and someone asks how you are:
  • I am actually going through some stuff right now
  • Not great, actually
  • It’s been a hard day (week/month/year)
  • I’d love to get your advice if you have some time to talk
  • Thanks for asking but I don’t feel like talking about it right now.

Things to ask if you are talking to a teen you don’t think is “fine”
  • Are you sure? I would love to grab lunch or a Sonic drink if you want to talk.
  • It seems like something is bothering you. Is there anything I can do to help?
  • I have noticed ___ change. What’s been going on?

Also in this episode

  • Should you be worried about bra strap bracelets?
  • The kaizen challenge and how it can help you make positive changes in your life.

In this episode, we mentioned or used the following resources about graduating seniors and mental health.

Have a question?

If you have a question about something you heard or just want to give us some feedback, please leave us a comment below.  We would love to hear from you!

Karlie Duke
Karlie Duke

Communications Director

Tobin Hodges
Tobin Hodges

Program Director

Caleb Hatchett
Caleb Hatchett

Podcast Host

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Toxic Achievement Culture + Micro Scholarships | Ep. 157

Toxic Achievement Culture + Micro Scholarships | Ep. 157

by | Apr 30, 2024 | Podcast, School

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What is toxic achievement culture?

Can achievement really be toxic? Jennifer Breheny Wallace says that achievement turns toxic when it becomes the sole determinant of one’s value and identity. In many middle and high schools (and even elementary schools), the pressure of achievement culture has reached alarming levels, leaving a trail of behavioral and mental health challenges in its wake. Research shows that students in so-called high-achieving schools are particularly vulnerable. One example of this was the infamous Varsity Blues Scandal of 2019, where the relentless pursuit of success led to deceit and corruption.

Who’s to blame for toxic achievement culture?

It’s a complex web of pressures emanating from parents, teachers, and institutions alike.

Parents just want what they think is best for their kids- to secure their children’s future. So they inadvertently make things worse by overemphasizing academic success, college admissions, and extracurricular achievements.

Teachers, under pressure to meet educational standards often contribute to the culture of competition and comparison. And schools, both public and private, get caught up in performance metrics that prioritize results over student well-being.

But what can we do to combat this pervasive culture?

Here are some practical tips for both parents and non-parents alike:

Affirm Their Worth

Remind students that their value extends beyond their achievements. A healthy self-esteem is grounded in the belief that they are inherently worthy, regardless of their grades or accolades.

Set Boundaries

Establish clear boundaries around discussions of achievement. For example, limit conversations about college to designated times and durations, ensuring that these discussions don’t overshadow other aspects of life.

Mind Your Words

Be mindful of the way you offer criticism and praise. Avoid overly critical remarks that can erode self-confidence, and refrain from excessively praising achievements, which can reinforce the idea that worth is contingent upon success.

Self-Care is Key

Prioritize your own well-being as a parent or mentor. Build a support system, engage in activities that bring you joy, and prioritize your mental health. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

Create a Safe Haven

Make home a sanctuary where students feel loved and accepted unconditionally. Let them know that they don’t have to constantly prove themselves to earn your affection.

Validate and Engage

If you’re not a parent, find ways to make teens feel valued and significant. Seek their input, involve them in decision-making processes, and recognize their unique talents and contributions.

By collectively challenging the toxic norms of achievement culture, we can create environments where students thrive not just academically, but emotionally and socially as well. Let’s prioritize the well-being of our youth and foster a culture where success is measured not just by what we accomplish, but by who we are as individuals.

Also in this episode:

  • The rising use of caffeine pouches.
  • Caleb’s take on the Apple Vision Pro.
  • One strategy on winning college scholarships adds up.

In this episode, we mentioned or used the following resources about toxic achievement culture and micro scholarships.

Have a question?

If you have a question about something you heard or just want to give us some feedback, please leave us a comment below.  We would love to hear from you!

About Us

Karlie Duke
Karlie Duke

Communications Director

Tobin Hodges
Tobin Hodges

Program Director

Caleb Hatchett
Caleb Hatchett

Podcast Host

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Classroom Environment + Food Dyes | Ep. 156

Classroom Environment + Food Dyes | Ep. 156

by | Apr 23, 2024 | Podcast, School, Support Groups

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Creating a welcoming classroom environment sets the tone.

In episode 156 of the Teen Life Podcast, we explore the significance of fostering a welcoming environment not just in the classroom, but in Support Groups or church small groups.

In our journey to create spaces where teens feel valued and supported, every detail matters. Let’s delve into some actionable tips that can make a difference in shaping the atmosphere of our gatherings.

Setting the Stage

Whether in a classroom, a church or a support group, the environment plays a crucial role in shaping the atmosphere of our gatherings.

Here are a few tips to consider:

Set Up Ahead of Time

Arriving to a well-prepared space can make a world of difference. Whether it’s arranging chairs in a circle for open discussion or laying out materials for an activity, being ready ahead of time shows that you value the time and presence of your teens.

Bring a Treat

Who doesn’t love a surprise snack or treat? It’s a simple gesture that can instantly lift spirits and create a sense of warmth. I once had a teacher who would pass out slices of white bread before our sessions, and while it might sound unusual, it never failed to bring a smile to our faces. Sometimes, it’s the quirky gestures that leave a lasting impression!

Try Conscious Discipline

Incorporating principles of conscious discipline can further enhance the environment by promoting emotional regulation, empathy, and positive relationships. Consider integrating activities or discussions that encourage self-awareness and respectful communication.

Why It Matters

Creating a welcoming environment isn’t just about making people feel comfortable; it’s about setting the stage for meaningful connection and engagement. When teens feel valued and safe, they’re more likely to participate actively and authentically in discussions and activities. Moreover, it cultivates a sense of belonging, which is essential for their social and emotional well-being.

Your Role as a Leader

As adults, we have the power to influence the atmosphere of our groups before anyone even walks through the door. By embodying warmth, positivity, and genuine interest in our teens’ lives, we can set the tone for a productive and enjoyable experience. Remember, your enthusiasm and presence matter more than you might realize!

In conclusion, creating a welcoming environment for teens goes beyond just saying hello at the door. It’s about being intentional in every aspect of our interactions and surroundings. So, as you prepare for your next gathering, keep these tips in mind and watch how they transform the atmosphere for the better.

In this episode, we mentioned or used the following resources about creating a positive classroom environment and food dyes.

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  • What’s the deal with food dyes and do they cause behavioral issues?
  • Why are teens using the Chinese app, Little Red Book,  to ask people abroad for style, health and dating advice?

Have a question?

If you have a question about something you heard or just want to give us some feedback, please leave us a comment below.  We would love to hear from you!

Karlie Duke
Karlie Duke

Communications Director

Tobin Hodges
Tobin Hodges

Program Director

Caleb Hatchett
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Podcast Host

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Below Grade Level + TikTok | Ep. 155

Below Grade Level + TikTok | Ep. 155

by | Apr 16, 2024 | Podcast, Resources, School, Social Media

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Unlocking Success for Students Below Grade Level

Report cards and grades have traditionally been our primary understanding of our children’s academic progress.

Grades don’t always provide the full picture, however.

That’s where Go Beyond Grades comes in. Go Beyond Grades is a national campaign aimed at bridging the gap between how parents think their kids are doing and the reality of their children’s academic performance.

The Reality Check: Perception vs. Reality

According to Go Beyond Grades, a staggering 90% of parents believe their children are performing at grade level. In reality, only half of the students are actually meeting this standard. This significant disparity underscores the importance of looking beyond grades to truly gauge a child’s mastery of a subject and where he or she is struggling.

The Power of Communication Between Parents, Teachers, and Students

So, how can we accurately assess whether our children are on grade level? While tools like report cards provide some insight, they don’t tell the whole story.

One crucial recommendation from teachers is simple yet often overlooked: talk to them. Engaging in open communication with your child about their academic experiences is key.

Ask them how they feel about their coursework. Are they struggling with assignments? Are they receiving constructive feedback from their teachers? By initiating these conversations, you can gain valuable insights into your teen’s academic journey.

Moreover, don’t hesitate to reach out to your child’s teacher if you notice any red flags.

Teachers are invaluable allies in supporting your child’s educational development. Go Beyond Grades offers a PDF of sample questions you can ask about your child’s progress in math and reading.

The Importance of Continued Support

But our role as parents doesn’t stop there.

It’s essential to maintain regular check-ins with both your child and their teacher. While it’s important not to be overbearing, demonstrating your ongoing interest and support can make a world of difference in your teen’s academic success.

Resources for All Ages: From Elementary to College Planning

While Go Beyond Grades primarily focuses on elementary and middle school students, they also offer resources for college planning and preparation. Whether your child is just starting their academic journey or preparing for higher education, these resources can provide valuable guidance and support.

Strengthening Home-School Partnerships

Go Beyond Grades also offers resources for teachers to enhance communication and collaboration with parents. Establishing trust and fostering meaningful connections outside of parent-teacher conferences ensures parents feel supported and engaged in their child’s education.

Paving the Way for Academic Success

In conclusion, Go Beyond Grades emphasizes the importance of looking beyond grades to support students who may be below grade level.

By fostering open communication between parents, teachers, and students, we can unlock their full potential and pave the way for academic success. Let’s go beyond grades and work together towards a brighter future for all students.

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  • Taylor Swift is set to release The Tortured Poets Department on April 19.
  • What’s new on the looming TikTok ban.

 

In this episode, we mentioned or used the following resources.

Have a question?

If you have a question about something you heard or just want to give us some feedback, please leave us a comment below.  We would love to hear from you!
Karlie Duke
Karlie Duke

Communications Director

Tobin Hodges
Tobin Hodges

Program Director

Caleb Hatchett
Caleb Hatchett

Podcast Host

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Social Media Etiquette + Silent Teens | Ep. 154

Social Media Etiquette + Silent Teens | Ep. 154

by | Apr 9, 2024 | Podcast, Social Media, Support Groups

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A Guide to Fostering Positive Social Media Etiquette

Social media has undeniably become an integral part of our lives, especially for teenagers who often find themselves navigating its complexities daily. Unfortunately, as much as it can be a platform for connection and inspiration, it can also be a breeding ground for toxicity and negativity. As parents and caring adults, it’s important to help our teens cultivate positive social media practices to ensure their online experiences are enriching rather than damaging.

 

Here are some key strategies to promote positivity and encouragement on social media.

Pause Before Posting

Before hitting that post button, take a moment to reflect. If what you’re about to share is polarizing or excessively negative, consider stepping away for a while. Give yourself time to cool off and reconsider whether your words will contribute to a constructive conversation or add to the noise.

Spread Kindness

Make a conscious effort to post something kind every day or every week. It could be a compliment, a word of encouragement, or simply sharing something uplifting. By actively seeking opportunities to spread positivity, you not only brighten someone else’s day but also contribute to a more wholesome online environment.

Remember the Human Behind the Screen

It’s easy to forget that there are real people with feelings behind every profile picture and username. Treat others on social media with the same respect and empathy you would in face-to-face interactions. Avoid making hurtful comments or resorting to cyberbullying, as words typed on a screen can have profound effects on someone’s mental well-being.

Exercise the Power to Unfollow

Not every social media interaction will be positive or beneficial.

If you come across content or accounts that consistently bring negativity into your feed, remember that you have the power to unfollow.

It’s okay to curate your online space to prioritize content that aligns with your values and uplifts your spirit. And remember, you don’t owe anyone an explanation for hitting that unfollow button.

Lead by Example

Our teens are constantly observing our behavior, both online and offline, and are likely to emulate what they see.

By practicing and promoting these social media habits ourselves, we demonstrate the importance of fostering a culture of kindness and positivity in our digital communities.

Let’s work together to make social media a place where our teens can thrive, connect authentically, and be inspired to become their best selves. It starts with each of us committing to being a force for good in the digital world.

Also in this episode

How can we get shy or quiet teens to engage and talk?

We have a few ideas.

    1. Group questions where everyone answers.
    2. Find their “thing” that will get them talking.
    3. Specifically ask if they have something to add.
    4. Encourage participation without making them talk.
    5. Connect one-on-one.

Teen Terms Mentioned

Ate

Doing something impressively. Similar to “killed it” or “rocked it” for millennials or Gen Xers.

Example: She ate that performance. = She gave a really impressive performance.

Era

Era is commonly used to describe someone’s current interests or priorities.

FR

The term “FR” is an abbreviation for “For Real” or “For Real?”

Main Character Energy

Main Character Energy represents somebody who exudes confidence, charisma, and embodies the essence of being the protagonist in their own life narrative.

Merchant

Used to describe someone which does something repeatedly or relies on the referenced thing or action.

Example: Julian is a jump shot merchant.

In this episode, we mentioned or used the following resources about teen terms and social media etiquette.

Have a question?

If you have a question about something you heard or just want to give us some feedback, please leave us a comment below.  We would love to hear from you!
Karlie Duke
Karlie Duke

Communications Director

Tobin Hodges
Tobin Hodges

Program Director

Caleb Hatchett
Caleb Hatchett

Podcast Host

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